Pessimist
"Honeymoon lasts not nowadays above a fortnight..." -SAMUEL RICHARDSON, Clarissa
"A honeymoon is a short period of doting between dating and debting..."- RAY BANDY, Little Giant Encyclopedia of Wedding Toasts
"Honeymoons don't last forever..." -LAILA HALABY, West of the Jordan
Optimist
"Tom and I will always be in our honeymoon phase..." -Katie Holmes
"It was just that we had this phenomenal honeymoon relationship that just kept on going..." -James Levine
Truth
"The honeymoon is over when she starts wondering what happened to the man she married, and he starts wondering what happened to the girl he didn't."
"The honeymoon is over when he phones he'll be late again for dinner, and she has already left a note that it's in the refrigerator."
We've all been there. All the late night phone calls, the all day texting/bbming/emailing back and forth. Your phone goes off and you instantly begin to smile when their name comes across the screen. You think about them all day because that's all you know how to do. Things that usually would bother you, you begin to careless about because of how they make you feel. When you begin to think about your future you see them in it and you envision what life would be like with them five or ten years from now. Lastly, there's that constant thought of them when you first wake up and right before you go to bed. What I just described is known to many as the "honeymoon phase".
My question to you is why does it have to be a phase? All of sudden the real world hits us and we lose all sense of romance, butterflies in our stomach and forget what it was once like. Relationships take work to succeed just like anything else in life. But work can also be fun. When we start to hit a rough patch in our relationships we begin to think about all the things that are wrong and why we're not as happy as we used to be. We start to nit pick at things that aren't really there and amplify the the smaller things that are. We completely lose sight of the good times and what we did to get there. What you don't realize is that even the "honeymoon phase" took work while it was going on. But you enjoyed working so much that you didn't see it as such. Its important to keep the fun and romance alive in your relationship. You have to look forward to waking up and going to work in your relationship.
One of the bigger mistakes we make is when we open ourselves to the possibility of being with other people. Sometimes this happens without us even realizing it before its too late. We're spending more time talking to our friend than your significant other. Spending more time on social networks getting to know others more than we are enjoying the company of the one we are with. The innocent lunch dates and phone conversations start to turn into innocent flirting. Before we know it we find ourselves engaged in activity that is no longer innocent or harmless, but instead is detrimental to our relationship and we've opened up Pandora's Box. All that time we've spent talking to someone else was time we could have been spending working on our own relationship. We've given up on our "honeymoon phase".
The "honeymoon phase" does not have to be a phase at all. It can last as long we want it to. I feel like we've been mislead into believing that relationships don't last 30, 40 and 50 years anymore. That mentality will have you old, lonely and bitter. There is someone for everyone. The day you give up on love and long lasting relationships is the day that person that was for you will eventually walk out of your life and into someone else's.
I am a firm believer in: What you put into life is what you'll get back from life. If you half ass your relationship and spend all your time elsewhere. Then you should expect your relationship to falter. But if both, you and your significant are ready and willing to keep your relationship strong, keep your romance alive and always remember to have fun and enjoy each other no matter what. There is no reason you can't make your honeymoon last forever.
As I'm beginning to wrap up this blog post Monica's - Before you Walk Out My Life comes on Pandora radio.
"Never meant to cause you no pain. I just wanna GO BACK to being the same. Well I, only wanna make things right. Before you walk out of my life"
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