What the fuck do I look like your "rebound"? We've all been involved in this situation one way or the other. You were either the rebound or rebounder. Being the rebounder is the easiest of the two. You pretty much just catch the first good thing you see coming. However, the one who is actually the "rebound" usually doesn't even see you coming and by the time you scoop them up its too damn late. They are right in your hands and the only way they're going anywhere is if you yourself decided to let them go. In your heart you know letting them go is the right thing to do. You know you're in no position to be entertaining someone who may quite possibly fall for you. You don't have what it takes mentally, physically or emotionally to give them what they deserve. So why does the rebounder hold on to the rebound so long?
When you've been hurt and have had your heart torn to pieces you begin to embrace anything to help you smile and feel whole again. I'm not saying you go looking for a new significant other or someone to date. BUT, when someone happens to just pop into your life and shows you what it is to smile again or perhaps sheds some light on the fact that maybe not all men/women are the same you embrace them. But while the rebounder is busy embracing the rebound, recovering from their recent heartbreak and putting the pieces of their life back together. The rebound is falling for them. There are some instances which the rebounder goes out of their way to actually let the rebound know the situation. Now naturally you would think that if someone knows they're the rebound they would run from the situation. Quite the contrary. When someone is made aware they are the rebound, there is this sense of "want to" that takes over. The rebound wants to show the rebounder that they can love them past all the heartache and pain. The rebound wants to show them that they aren't that other person. But the majority of the time that whole plan tends to backfire.
While you, the rebound is busy trying to prove to the rebounder that not all men/women are the same they are slowly starting to believe it or least entertaining the thought. But what they are not entertaining is that YOU are that man or woman. You have become a stepping stone in their recovery process. You're just helping them to feel like they can love again in due time. You're making them feel good about themselves, like it wasn't them that fucked up their last relationship, but that it was the other person. Everybody wants to feel like they weren't the cause of a break-up. It makes the recovery process easier to deal with when you can point the finger. So what happens when they're ready to get out and date again? They may actually give you, the rebound a chance. But that chance being given is a little skewed. You see up until now you've been a really good friend. You've been there for them in the time of need and they are grateful for you. Their gratification may lead to the start of a relationship. I'm not saying that the rebound never gets the rebounder. That would just be a naive statement to make. Things happen and people fall in love. But when you put yourself in a position where you have become such a good friend. Most people try to avoid ruining the friendship by not dating at all. So now you're in the friend zone with what maybe be your own broken heart but you were hoping for something more.
I'm not here to discourage anyone from becoming the rebound. I've been there done and that and its had a different outcome each time. I'm simply here to shed some light on the situation and encourage you to proceed with caution if it happens to you. Trust yourself above all else. If you feel like you cant do that then its probably in your best interest to steer clear of becoming the rebound. If you can't trust yourself and your emotions you're just setting yourself up for heartache. Try to be as rational as possible. You have to know the rebounder's situation in its entirety if possible in order to really make an educated decision. If you don't happen to know everything then just do what you feel in your best interest. Just make sure you're aware of the ramifications of your actions.
"Being the rebound can be a bitch. But if caught by the right rebounder it can lead to two points..." - AV Quotes
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