Sex... Make or Break???

Can sex make or break a relationship?  Would you leave your significant other if his/her sex game just wasn't up to par or would you stay and try to figure out how to make your sex life better?  I'm sure this question haunts many of us.  On second thought perhaps it doesn't.  It seems like we, both men and women, have adopted the "test drive" rule.  When was the last time you decided to become exclusive with someone before actually having sex with them first and "test driving" the pussy or dick in the case of the ladies?  Truth is that shit has become a lost art in the world we live in today.  Women used to hold on to that "three month rule."  But then they realized that their friends weren't even holding on to that bullshit and figured they couldn't be judge so what hell.  So what happens when you fall for someone and you're so wrapped up in who they are as a person and everything is falling right into place. Finally, you decide to sleep with them and they fail the "test drive" like a pop quiz on a Monday morning.  Is that the deal breaker? Is it really on to the next one, as we now love to say?

I truly believe that chemistry can not be faked or created.  It is either exist between two people or it doesn't.  So when it comes to sex itself, if the two of you don't have that chemistry prior to laying down together it will not magically appear. The shit isn't magic and will no abracadara its way into your bedroom.  So again I ask, what happens when the sex just isn't what you expected?  First mistake we make is creating these crazy expectations in our minds as to what we think the sexual experience will be like.  You do realize regardless of how great it is, if it doesn't quite meet your expectations you've set them up to fail.  The second mistake we make is trying too hard to impress our partner the first time.  Here's some advice, just do you.  That way you're at least displaying some sense of confidence.  Hard to be confident when you're trying to do shit out of character just to impress your mate.  If chemistry isn't the problem and its more technique and lack of communication then the sex can be fixed instantaneously.  That is if your mate is open minded and doesn't believe they know everything there is to know about sex and they're receptive to your advice.  Every man or woman is different and its important that you get to know your partner and their body.  For the fellas this proves be a lot more difficult because you're forced to figure women out on the fly.  But if you're observant she'll tell you everything you need to know if you just listen and watch closely.  The biggest mistake you can make is trying to sex every woman the same thinking "you're the man."  That shit will get you embarrassed and talked about while they're sitting around sipping wine on a Saturday night.  Listen to your woman, observe her every move and touch and you'll know just what it takes to satisfy her fully.

So you see bad sex should really only negatively effect your relationship if the chemistry is the issue, which in that case you're probably better off being friends anyway.  But it should never break a relationship simply because he/she just doesn't have a clue.  Now I'll be the first to admit that I hate playing teacher and prefer the experienced lover myself.  But if you happen to be with someone who is a little wet behind the ears, you are now in position to mold them into the lover you want them to be.  That can prove to be pure genius and your sex life could reach places you never thought imaginable.

In the end, sex is just as much mental as it is physical.  It takes communication, observation and an open-mind to really have an amazing sex life with your partner.  If you have all three of those the physical aspect just flows with ease and her tasteful juices will follow suit.

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